Sunjadens Whispers: Following the misty dark swirls of the moonbeams g...

Sunjadens Whispers: Following the misty dark swirls of the moonbeams g...: Following the misty dark swirls of the moonbeams guiding my soul to the bridge leading to my heart. I struggle to make my reality nothing ...

Following the misty dark swirls of the moonbeams guiding my soul to the bridge leading to my heart. I struggle to make my reality nothing but a distant dream... To be forgotten.

Sunjadens Whispers: ~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my...

Sunjadens Whispers: ~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my...: ~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my soul to feel the sunshine ~~ ~Mia~

Sunjadens Whispers: ~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my...

Sunjadens Whispers: ~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my...: ~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my soul to feel the sunshine ~~ ~Mia~

~~ Plucking the tears from my heart and lifting my soul to feel the sunshine ~~
~Mia~

Sunjadens Whispers: Colors for Clothing Success

Sunjadens Whispers: Colors for Clothing Success: Believe it or not, the color of our clothes we choose to wear everyday affect our mood. The color of our clothes can even affect us phy...

Colors for Clothing Success

Believe it or not, the color of our clothes we choose to wear everyday affect our mood. The color of our clothes can even affect us physically. Have you ever noticed restaurants years ago decorated with a lot of the orange color? It's because the color orange promotes feelings of hunger. Restaurants used this color in the hopes that their patrons would purchase more food than they intended, hence more money for the restaurant.

Accenting our clothing with certain accessories can also have an affect on our mood and performance throughout the day. For men, a yellow tie can contribute to concentration. For women, a purple scarf can increase mental clarity. Light blue and turquoise jewelery can improve communication. A red brooch to project dynamism and leadership. For a celebration, deep purple, navy, or magenta can improve energy levels. In an exercise class, reds,blues, and whites help power you up for action. For a end of the day event, such as night school, wear the colors green or blue to promote growth. For just relaxing around the house wear blue, it brings a sense of peace and mental clarity. Purple instills spiritual peace, green promotes balance in your life and turquoise surrounds you with a sense of calmness.

The colors we choose to wear from day to day can make us or break us. Here are some ideas on what to wear and when to wear... Or not.

• Red is for stability, don't wear red if you have high blood pressure.
• Green is for those days when you can't seem to sit still. Avoid green if you are experiencing boredom or lethargy.
• White is when you want to explore new possibilities. Avoid white when your feeling lonely.
• Black is a in control feeling color. Avoid black if your depressed or are in self-denial.
• Lavender/Mauve is a calming color sense. Avoid these two colors when you don't have any support from anyone.
• Violet/Purple is spiritual peace on inner level. Avoid these two colors when your feeling oversensitive.
• Gold Yellow/Yellow is expressing your true self. Avoid wearing these when you are feeling unstable within your life.
• Orange/Apricot for when you want to rise above depression. Avoid wearing when your feeling sick, frustrated or claustrophobic.
• Pink/Peach is when you want to feel universal love. Avoid if feeling overwhelmed by people or events
• Blue battles mental fatigue, avoid this color when your nervous or depressed.

The next time you have a presentation, important interview or just want to make an impression, remember you are what your wear. What we decide to wear affects us and others in a more profound way than we can ever imagine. Dress smart and dress happy!

Sunjadens Whispers: New Love Rush

Sunjadens Whispers: New Love Rush: Ahhhh... That feeling when you first fall in love. Life around you feels more colorful and vibrant, food even seems to taste better. A...

New Love Rush

Ahhhh... That feeling when you first fall in love. Life around you feels more colorful and vibrant, food even seems to taste better. A little spring to your walk seems to be natural and it feels as if you conquer the world. Falling in love is without a doubt a rush. It's an endless adrenaline that keeps you awake at night fantasizing about what is to come in the relationship. We are telling everyone we are in love, just short of shouting it from the rooftops of every building around. A few months down the road and things seem to have fizzled out. The rush you once felt seems to be gone or missing from your love. The next thing you know you end up parting ways, only to feel defeated emotionally and mentally. Wondering what went wrong and what could've been done differently up until this point.

Don't beat yourself up to terribly. The feeling of a new relationship is an addicting rush for some people. For some people, after a months of new relationship when the honeymoon phase wears off and its time for a real time relationship they flee. There's nothing you could've done differently or anything you can do to make them stay. Some people are just only interested in that initial rush of a new relationship. To them it is game to see how long they can keep that rush alive and to leave when it dies down. To them it's a pure addiction. To us, the unsuspecting people, it seems as if our whole world has been turned inside out and it leaves us heartbroken and wondering where we went wrong. Because our logic is that everything was so perfect, why change a thing? We must realize to the other person it's a addiction, just like a drug addiction. With drugs, people start out loving the drug, then they continue because they are addicted to that rush and are forever chasing that first high. It's the same with relationships, when that rush is gone they are off to the next person for the next rush.

Some of the signs that these people show are quite clear, even in the beginning. They are risk takers and this is something you can pick up from someone after knowing them for a little while. They seem totally focused on you and nothing else in their life matters. They even say things that seem to be to good to be true, that's a sure sign. If they are addicted to any substance is also an indication that addiction runs in their personality. If they over glorify past sexual experiences in past relationships is another good indicator that this a love rush person. These people are very much into instant gratification and sometimes wll go to any length to achieve it. But most of all, trust and use your gut instinct... If it's to good to be true it probably is.

Sunjadens Whispers: Sunjadens Whispers: Cheating Or Not

Sunjadens Whispers: Sunjadens Whispers: Cheating Or Not: Sunjadens Whispers: Cheating Or Not : Mmmmm... So there you are, in the middle of daily routine marital bliss. The kids seem to be right on...

Sunjadens Whispers: Cheating Or Not

Sunjadens Whispers: Cheating Or Not: Mmmmm... So there you are, in the middle of daily routine marital bliss. The kids seem to be right on track in school and all seems to...

Cheating Or Not

Mmmmm... So there you are, in the middle of daily routine marital bliss. The kids seem to be right on track in school and all seems to be going well without a hitch. Then you start to notice small signs that there might be trouble in paradise. We start to notice small changes in our husbands or wives routine. All of a sudden they are not calling to check in during the day like they normally would or maybe their arrival time to home has been a little later than normal. Then we are subjected to their attitude change, they seem to be distant and irritable with us at times. They are staying up up later at night and the sex has been cut down to a bare minimum. To top it off, the children seem to have started acting out... For they are picking up on something fishy also. That is the moment when fear and panic clutches our heart, and we face the awful possibility that they could be cheating.
We then are determined to find out if indeed they are cheating. Playing Nancy Drew or the Hardy Boys is not easy but we set out to uncover the truth in hopes that we could be wrong. But nine times out of ten people are not wrong when they suspect their loved one is cheating. We all seem to possess that universal feeling of just " knowing " when we are being cheated on.
A good place to start to uncover if their cheating or not is their cell phone. A little snoop through a cell phone when they are not looking can tell what they have been up to. Question unexplained absences or ask if you may tag along. If they are not hiding anything they will have no problem telling you or letting you come along. A dead give away is when they dress before going out. If your loved one has a history of deception, you have every right to question what their up to. Take a search through their personal belongings and car. Somewhere through the search there will be some type of sign that they are cheating... Unless their Houdini. A very important step to find out if their cheating is to ask others or pick up on clues from others that they are cheating. This is a very important step to be attentive to, you can pick up on little things others say or distinct mannerisms from them. If there is more issues with and how you do things where as before it didn't bother them, they may be comparing you to the other person.
Cheating is a very painful thing for a couple to go through. Some can rebuild after and some cannot. This is where the history of deception question comes in... And then you will have your answer.

Sunjadens Whispers: How To Avoid Dramas Wrath

Sunjadens Whispers: How To Avoid Dramas Wrath: Bam! There you are... Slammed in the middle of three friends fighting over god only knows what.. They probably don't even know what the...

How To Avoid Dramas Wrath

Bam! There you are... Slammed in the middle of three friends fighting over god only knows what.. They probably don't even know what their fighting over and are still trying to twist themselves out of the situation... Or in some cases, some may be making it worse for their own amusement.
Drama seems to be the new age favorite pastime. For some people it seems to be their main source of amusement. Those are what we call the " side-liners ". They are not directly involved, but love to watch the drama unfold as it is happening. Then we have the people who are addicted to drama, they eat, breath and sleep drama. These individuals are what we call " drama-droids ". At any rate, the drama droids main focus is to start drama with tools like lies, bringing wrong company together in one place,twisting and stretching reality.
The results of bad drama can be devastating to someones life. Some toxic results can be vicious rumors, getting beat-up, jail, getting children taken away... A result of bad drama violence. Your getting the picture.
Being a victim of drama, I have experienced first hand the magnatude of the pain it causes. What disgusts me the most is how some people get off on causing drama to someone... It's almost as if it's a tree branch of bullying.
I have come up with some ideas and tips that I have found to work for me and others. The foolproof plan is to steer clear of drama all together. But in case you have landed yourself in the drama neverland... Here's some tips and ideas to get yourself out of it. Stop answering your phone to all involved in the drama. If you can't avoid talking to them try to change the subject or just play dumb and show no reaction to their drama talk. The less affected you show by it, the less they will be wanting to to dish it your way. Don't offer information to anyone in the drama chain. Avoid talking talking about the he said she said issues. Don't confide secrets of any kind to a known drama droid, that's like posting it on Facebook for all to read. Speaking of Facebook, put all drama droids on your acquaintance list and only to to friends and not acquaintances. I have found that to be very effective. Don't have drama droids or drama side-liners at your home, this is a sure way for drama to get out of control and for the police to possibly be involved. If out in a public place and a drama situation erupts with your friends, try to diffuse the situation by leaving with a friend or two. Try not to play up the drama, the more it's talked about the more it's relived. if asked questions about knowledge of a drama episode, just say it wasn't your business so you didn't pay attention.
There have been some drama situations where I have not even answered my front door because I knew drama was waiting on the other side. The most effective way I have found to avoid drama is not to engage in friendships with people involved, because it seems people involved in drama never change... Does a leopard change it's spots?

Sunjadens Whispers: We must always to remember while keeping our he...

Sunjadens Whispers:    We must always to remember while keeping our he...:    We must always to remember while keeping our heart open to find that healthy balance with closing our heart to people that will take ad...

   We must always to remember while keeping our heart open to find that healthy balance with closing our heart to people that will take advantage of our open heart. I have lived with a very open heart and have the hard way that people can be predator just waiting to take from our heart without leaving a deposit.

Sunjadens Whispers: Illusional Love

Sunjadens Whispers: Illusional Love: Boom bam! Before you realize love just hit you like a ton of bricks. Then we realize that we suddenly cannot live without that person... Al...

Illusional Love

Boom bam! Before you realize love just hit you like a ton of bricks. Then we realize that we suddenly cannot live without that person... Almost as if they are our special little private drug that keeps us going. A few months go by and they have mysteriously transformed into some dark gargoyle  we don't even recognize. Then come the things we catch that from people who know them, who say little things here and there that we ignore but seem to file it away in the back of our minds. To wonder if  we have made a deadly mistake with our trusting hearts. Alas, the panic that clutches our heart when we realize that every step of the way they downright deceived us. They walk away without even a seconds glance back... And we are left with a shattered heart, alone to pick up the pieces. We put the relationship into perspective only to wonder what we could have done differently. The moral of the story is... We were probably to good for them in the first place and they took advantage of our love and trust. Karma will be coming back to them to speak to them in their own language that they understand. Last but not least, as we're picking up the shattered pieces... Feel good about the fact that we were genuine with feelings and intentions and we will find someone that truly deserves us.

Sunjadens Whispers: If we give up small pieces of our integrity for th...

Sunjadens Whispers: If we give up small pieces of our integrity for th...: If we give up small pieces of our integrity for the person we love, each time we are losing a bit of who we truly are. If we persist with ...

If we give up small pieces of our integrity for the person we love, each time we are losing a bit of who we truly are. If we persist with doing this we then have compromised our integrity for love and one day won't recognize the person when we look into the mirror~~ Mia

Sunjadens Whispers: Playing Cover Page

Sunjadens Whispers: Playing Cover Page: Feeling as if I should turned left when I turned right. I think we all put situations into perspective when the relationship is over thin...

Playing Cover Page

Feeling as if I should turned left when I turned right. I think we all put situations into perspective when the relationship is over thinking of what we could have done differently to "save" the relationship. Then we hit the painful realization that maybe there was nothing we could've done to keep the other person happy or make the relationship work. We then are faced with the fact that just maybe they didn't love us as much as we love them. We then start to re-evaluate ourselves to figure what signs we missed and what we could've done differently... When in fact, the simplicity of it all is... They were playing a show like a cover page off a trashy tabloid magazine.

Sunjadens Whispers: Daggers And Words

Sunjadens Whispers: Daggers And Words: Why is it that people who claim to love us so much insist on hurting us with their words? Is it because they have been so hurt in the past...

Daggers And Words

Why is it that people who claim to love us so much insist on hurting us with their words? Is it because they have been so hurt in the past that they feel the need to hurt us with their words to give us a taste of they have endured? 
I am not sure what the answer would be. I do know that every time we let someone hurt us with their words, we begin to see ourselves in their fashion of hurtful words... And that's when we lose sense of our true selves.

Sunjadens Whispers: Time Out

Sunjadens Whispers: Time Out: Sometimes relationships cloud our self perception. We seem to lose a sense of who we truly are and conform to the other persons needs and ...

Time Out

Sometimes relationships cloud our self perception. We seem to lose a sense of who we truly are and conform to the other persons needs and desires. In relationships it's important to take a time out ( even if it is a mental one ) and look outside ourselves to get a perspective on how other people perceive us. Because if the relationship does not last, all we have left is ourselves and we may not even know who we are in the end because we didn't take time out to truly be ourselves.

Sunjadens Whispers: Shattered Pieces

Sunjadens Whispers: Shattered Pieces:   when we put our all into true love, it's so devastating when the other person just walks away like we were mere strangers to them. We m...

Shattered Pieces

  when we put our all into

true love, it's so devastating when the other person just walks away like we were mere strangers to them. We must then try to put the pieces of our shattered heats back together as if it were a giant jigsaw puzzle.. Trying to answer all the questions they refuse to answer.

We must always remember... Even though it's raining in our heart... outside our heart is a brilliant sunshine that is waiting for us to bask in.

Sunjadens Whispers: Recipe For The Broken Heart

Sunjadens Whispers: Recipe For The Broken Heart: I think we can all agree that nothing hurts more than a broken heart, that actually feels like it's been shattered into a million piec...

Recipe For The Broken Heart

I think we can all agree that nothing hurts more than a broken heart, that actually feels like it's been shattered into a million pieces by an unforgiving sledge hammer. Here are some ways to battle the initial shock.

          1)Grab your favorite drink and your best friend. Focus on the positives you brought to relationship.

          2) Take a long hot bubble bath and indulge in your favorite dessert afterward along with your favorite
               love movie.

           3) No matter how painful it is never stop telling yourself that they were pretending to be somebody
               their somebody their not the whole time.